"I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. And I met my guy best friend about 8 months ago. My best friend finally came out to me the other day that he has had feeling for me since we met.
Now it might seem selfish, but my boyfriend and I rarely hang out or barely even talk most days. I still love him, but I'm tired of being last on his priority list. While my boyfriend has been out, my best friend and I have gotten closer as friends. He is always there, when my boyfriend isn't.
I know I am selfish for putting both of them through this, but I have fallen for my best friend and I still love my boyfriend."- Quoted Excerpt
As I got older , society made it clear that Girls and
Boys can’t be “JUST FRIENDS”. Whether it is about the weekly ZOom, Planet
Bollywood, Simi Garewal’s exaggerated interpretation of “Just Friends” or the
fact that we are suddenly pulsated into single sex schools at puberty- it keeps telling me that every guy/girl
relationship has an underlying current of romance. While I'll agree that a
relationship can easily turn that way, I don't think that all relationships are
destined to do so.
Just a glance at our culture proves that there is a
huge emphasis placed on romance. Perhaps it is that mentality that keeps us
from seeing that it is possible for a guy and a girl to "just" be
friends. Because we were created differently, it probably isn't the greatest
idea to make a guy your best friend, but you can build a healthy relationship
that isn't based on romance.
There are certain friends to whom you open your heart
and soul, and then there are others who you simply enjoy being with on a more
casual level. Drop the romantic notions and get to know a few guys on that
casual level.J
But
still- I think the core difference between a best guy friend and a boyfriend is
that spark between you and him - call it chemistry, call it fireworks, call it
whatever you like-you know? That FEELING of being attracted to them and wanting
to be with them! Besides
that- There's a difference between loving someone, being in love with someone
and finding true love(more like the soul mate- lifelong commitment type).
“I have some very attractive best guy
friends, and I'll easily admit they're good-looking, but that doesn't make me
want to date them at all, because that special connection that makes your heart
flutter when you see them just isn't there.”- Impression from
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