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What really is Emotional Intelligence?

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I was quietly scrolling down my Facebook Newsfeed last night when I bumped against the status of a Facebook acquaintance.

It pertained to Emotional Intelligence and immediately brought me to the reminiscence of my cousin and I having such a discussion a few years ago. I wanted to encapsulate the fizzes of our conversation within a blog post.

But what does an emotionally intelligent look or sound like?

I used to dwell with the fact emotionally intelligent people are good listeners; no matter what kind of situation we're in, they always seem to know just what to say – and how to say it – so that we're not offended or upset. They're caring and considerate, and even if we don't find a solution to our problem, we usually leave feeling more hopeful and optimistic.
emotional intelligence noun the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. "emotional intelligence is the key to both …

Ours is a world of relative values.

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Nothing is absolute; all isrelative,since any thought or actions cannot be seen outside of the context in which they exist or happen. The good or bad we know or perceive is heightened by our experiences or senses, and that there is no way of arriving at a universal adage. What someonethinkis good may or may not be good to someone with different contexts or experiences. In fact, good and bad are relative.

But now, this could lead to utter anarchy. There must be some things which are either entirely good or entirely bad. Unquestionably, irrevocably.
For thousands of years, most people believed that telling the truth, not stealing, being faithful to your partner, being kind, keeping your word, forgiving people who’ve done you wrong, and not murdering were absolute truths. If people disobeyed these truths, they knew their actionswere wrong. This is not the case with most Americans today.

In the last 50 years, there’s been a clear shift in how people view truth. Recent studies show that 91 pe…

Rouzblézonnver beyond Oceans | #SingaporeSignatures

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In the absence of that which you are not, that which you are is not. This is one of my fundamental beliefs- more like one of the eternal truths that I hold as a spiritualist.

However, coming all the way to Singapore away from our little island, Mauritius made me soon experience certain things. Briefly, I could summarize it as: It is in the absence of where you used to be, that what you used to be, is.
Amidst over 37 nationalities, you soon figure out exactly what makes your own nationality so different from the others. Perhaps those unique traits in you go to become even more pronounced! 
1. Beyond the oceans, 'We are all Mauritians' In Mauritius, whether it may or may not seem so, ethnic groups have their own personal identities and niches. At times, being secretly fanatical we all even use racial slurs. However, when you are abroad, and say Ti Bhai meets Joseph, we are all Mauritians and that is the identity which primes above all.
2. You take advantage of your ethnic belonging to…

Clubbing and College | #SingaporeSignatures

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Clubbing and late-nights are immiscible incisions of college life. For most of the part, it's ridiculous, overrated and a waste of time and money.

What clubbing actually looks like when it comes to college-goers:
1. Dancing is almost non-existent. Most clubs play electronic house music that pretty much requires fist pumping and head bobbing. Some songs open the door to slow dance, which, in 2014, means grind, a.k.a. rubbing one’s pelvic region against another’s backside. Too many “grinding” songs only lead to people essentially having softcore porn on the dance floor.

2. Faked Socialisation. Whether you’re trying to get to know someone, order a drink, or ask your friend where the bathroom is, it’s nearly impossible because you can’t hear a damn thing. The music is so loud that you literally have to shout in someone’s ear to be heard. At the end of the night, you usually have no voice; and when you wake up the next morning, you’re nearly deafened by your car radio because you were liste…

3 Important Things College Teaches Us | #SingaporeSignatures

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Budgeting Learning to budget comes in handy with resourcefulness as well. If you’re forced to be on a budget – as in, you have no choice but to budget your money out, you’ll learn how to scrimp and save. That way, when you’re in the work force and your budget (hopefully) isn’t as tight as when you were a college student, you’ll still make smarter financial decisions.
Social Drinking The modern professional is presented with plenty of opportunities to have a few pints, pitchers, or cocktails after work. If you didn’t go to college and learn that there’s always a time and a place for this type of event, you may not have been able to control yourself.
You now know that your work supervisor finds it much less entertaining if you show up for the job late, hung-over, or generally unproductive. Sure, you could order that last call drink on a Wednesday night. But Thursday morning comes awfully fast and you won’t have the option of just skipping this class.
If you save big party nights for the weeke…

5 Primordial Things College Teaches us | #SingaporeSignatures

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The importance of clear communication Figuring out exactly what your professor expects from an assignment is the surest way to excel at it. The same goes for employers. Assuming that you’re on the same wavelength as the person evaluating your performance is never a safe risk to take. Anyone who’s taken an English or Philosophy class can attest to this. College teaches us to approach professors, employers and sexual partners with a shameless need for clarification as to what they expect from us. It’s the most efficient way to get anything done right.
How to balance conflicting responsibilities Juggling school, relationships, extra-curricular activities and part-time jobs makes you the master of multi-tasking. It also makes you the master of taking responsibility for your actions because your boss doesn’t care that you had a huge paper due last night and your professor doesn’t care that your girlfriend is mad at you again.
It’s inevitable that at some point, the various roles we take on th…

17 Basic Things College Teaches You | #SingaporeSignatures

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1. Coffee and energy drinks are necessities.

2.How to stressfully watch Netflix all night while simultaneously avoiding one project, three papers, and studying for four quizzes.
3.Just because it "fits" in the washing machine doesn't mean it should. Break down and do two loads.
4.How to make new friends. More importantly, how to make forever friends. Friends that are good for you and your future.
5. How to schedule a doctor's appointment.
6.What to buy at the grocery store for actual meals. Chips and ice cream don't count.
7.How, when and where to get free things. T-shirts, cups, stickers, key chains, and any other junk you might want to collect.
8.Coupons. Coupons. Coupons.
9.The extreme importance of FLASH DRIVES. Keep everything on a flash drive or face the consequences of a crashed computer during exam week.
10. How to stay awake for 48 hours straight and still make it to your classes. And then sleep for 48 hours straight afterwards.
11.Sleeping in until lunch time is …

9 things that you start to dread about College | #SingaporeSignatures

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1. The Alarm Clock The career I'm pursuing will require me to be at work by 7 am, five days a week. I am fully aware of this. Now, will I enroll in an 8 am next semester? Absolutely not - I'm not a demon. In college, nights often start at 10 p.m., dinners are eaten at 4, and mornings can begin anywhere from 8 to 2. We don't get that whole 9-5 idea.
2. Cafeteria Food and Atrocious Eating Habits Sometimes you don't have time to eat. Sometimes you order pizza at 2 in the morning. Sometimes you eat three dinners. Sometimes you diet. All I can say, is thank goodness that our metabolisms are decently high at this age.
3. Expensive Books that are not used the entire semester
4. Clubbing Culture
5. Homework is given out at 23:00 for next class at 9:00
6. An average of 3 presentations per week
7. Too many different peers to deal with
8. Living in a Closet