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Ask for stories, not answers

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HOW TO TURN SMALL TALK INTO SMART CONVERSATION?Imagine almost any situation where two or more people are gathered—a wedding reception, a job interview, two off-duty cops hanging out in a Jacuzzi. What do these situations have in common? Almost all of them involve people trying to talk with each other. But in these very moments where a conversation would enhance an encounter, we often fall short. We can’t think of a thing to say. Or worse, we do a passable job at talking. We stagger through our romantic, professional and social worlds with the goal merely of not crashing, never considering that we might soar. We go home sweaty and puffy, and eat birthday cake in the shower.
Ask for stories, not answers One way to get beyond small talk is to ask open-ended questions. Aim for questions that invite people to tell stories, rather than give bland, one-word answers.

Instead of Try 
“How are you?”
“How was your day?”
“Where are you from?”
“What do you do?”
“What line of work are you in?”
“What’s your nam…

What Young People want the Older Folks to know

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Clashes with the youth would greatly reduce if the elderly made an effort to understand their pleas instead of stringently sticking to their own bamboo tree beliefs, customs and traditions like lazy koalas. The young people will without any doubt destroy the old way of living, that is what modernization constitutes of and the elderly’s duty is to encourage it, not discourage it. It is not the youth who are destroying rain forests. Instead they are asking you to stop it. It is not the youth who are letting thousands of people die of starvation on a planet with more than enough food to feed everyone. They are asking you to stop it. It is not the youth who has a dramatic mental illness that finds the idea of two men loving each other more disturbing than men killing each other at war. And it is definitely not our youth who are engaging in a politics of deception and manipulation. They are not asking it, they are begging the old ones. If the youth resort to violence and rebellion it is be…