At times I wish my friend's houses were connected to mine by secret tunnels.

People come together and unite as friends for various reasons. We usually take the gregarious side of human nature for granted, but to understand the nature and importance of friendship it’s instructive to reflect on the factors that bring people together and unite them as friends. 

In our world, I know some who befriend others because of the money, the status, the good gains, the prestige. In high school, it's the best athlete, the prettiest girls, the student council members..(that one had rather befriend.)

Others unite because of their common likings, their common thinking grounds and the feel good factor. We can see that on a given Saturday night many people will go out to night clubs to enjoy themselves dancing; others will go to bars to enjoy drinking and chatting together; others might go to sports matches; others will get together and watch crude films. That is what unites them in friendship. 

"I used to be so mean and felt that everyone in the world deserved to be hurt. I did made sure that my every comment was invaded with the worst kind of hidden sarcasm that people would smilingly take a praise in their honour. But then things happened- the Healing Power enacted itself through me.

I seriously can't believe that 3 months back I would never have lifted my eyelids 45 degrees above the ground- mostly because I wanted to avoid eye contact that initiated conversations. I wanted to carve a world out for myself and build a niche that consisted only of myself. Nobody had "that" type of effect on me-or at least- I never let it happened: running away from everything that existed- the ties, the bonds and bounds, the limitations, the expectations and principally the stares filled with remorse.
I wonder why- but I always used to end up hurting people I loved the most.. It's always been about me, they were flawless. But I this natural primitive instinct that asks me to run away from people as soon as they come to close. I might be having my fair share of attraction but I would never admit anything. I would always move away. It used to feel wrong. Perhaps it explains why I'm still confused on the "Friendship" topic."

Many relationships fall apart because of the inability to keep appropriate distance. 

Some people would come barging through the door of your comfort zone and closely attach themselves to you at the slightest gesture of friendliness or the drop of a kind word. Others think that friendship is a relationship in which people are extremely attached together. But to be honest, this is a rather difficult form of friendship to maintain. We are always taught things, but I feel that as a child, I have never been taught enough about friendship.

Friendship is not a clingy relationship. To build a good friendship that will last a long time, a certain degree of independence is needed from each person. Good relationship can form when each person is able to take care of themselves. I have always tried to deepen friendship through a sharing of  deeper thoughts and feelings. I would limit the relationship to the level of discussing our philosophies or views on life. I also found it more easy to talk to people who were ten to fifteen years older than I was. I was thus difficult for me to make friends with people my own age. Most twenty-year-old(s) even do not think a lot about life too deeply, so there was not much I shared with them.

I'm hence knotted in a pack of feelings when it comes to whom I should call a friend. Imagine being a young infant waking up some day and you are perplex as to who is your mother. That's exactly the same feeling for me.

I don't own my friends. I'm not attached to them. And I definitely to not expect things from them. I don't expect them not to hurt me. I don't want them to drop at my place on the morning of my birthday to wish me.( Yes, My Birthday is something which I love other than food! :D )

But I'm proud of them. When you choose your friends, don't be short-changed by choosing personality over character.

My friends are the ones who don't necessarily call me a friend. Friendship is not a mutual feeling for me. Friendship to me is merely the admiration you have for a person whose qualities you aspire to have and is a person who brings out the best in you. I might be a complete stranger to that person, but he might be a friend to me. 

Friendship to be is an enlightening experience- one that lifts you up. At times I wish my friend's houses were connected to mine by secret tunnels.

I don't like it when people bring such an awesome relationship to only a means of having fun, entertain oneself and to share your pleas with. (Sure, the mushy feelings are here to be shared!) But in these relationships, we hope that our friends would pick us up in our bad times and that they'll always be in the look out to protect you. Ultimately it's a selfish and self-gratifying relationship that has been built. One that is filled with attachment, expectations and disappointment.

It ought to be a kind of relationship where you don't really need anything from your friend. It must be as if they are dead- because then the minute your chest bumps against theirs- it's love at first sight! :D *To all the hugs and cuddling that we go through <3* Friends are the ones who are able to grow part of you without you becoming dependent on them. I don't believe in saying that your friend is the only person who never leaves your side or that you recognize a true friend by his loyalty. Friendship is a state of mind. 

Not companionship. If the persons leaves you to die, well, darling you are still a friend. Had I wanted him to stay back, it would have been for my own selfish feelings.. If you find a wise person who points out your faults and corrects you, you should follow such a sage. My friends are sages. I see God in them. That's why I bow my head in Namaste +Priya Bhirgoo :)

"In a chaotic world, friendship is the most elegant, the most lasting way to be useful. We are, each of us, a living testament to our friends’ compassion and tolerance(I had rather say "Respect"), humor and wisdom, patience and grit. Friendship, not technology, is the only thing capable of showing us the enormity of the world."

Steven Dietz

The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friendship.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable.
Dave Tyson Gentry

Good friends must not always be together; It is the feeling of oneness when distant that proves a lasting friendship.
Susan P. Schultz

And when we thought that love relationships were complicated-perhaps it is time we nourish our friendships?! ;)