Women don’t love, they only care for
themselves.
Loyalty
and friendship are concepts no woman can ever fully understand. It’s not
deliberate, it’s in their nature—it’s evolution. A woman will unconditionally
love her offspring only—if she is a good mother. Aside from this, women love
conditionally and opportunistically. You can’t change that. But once you know
it, you can act accordingly.
Women
are incapable of loyalty and friendship towards men, just as men are incapable
of giving birth.
The
reason people accept the existence of unconditional love script is childhood.
Your parents loved you with all their hearts and the template for what love is
supposed to be was set during those early years. You loved them back in the
same unconditional manner. And it was great. But your woman is not your mom.
She is a fickle-minded person who’s most likely looking out for a prettier
branch to grab right now.
Make
no mistake, even when a woman is deeply “in love” with you, her love is not
unconditional.
Most
likely she’s madly in love with you because you are the man who rocks her
world.
She
is more concerned with the beauty that you bring to her world rather than your
own beauty. (soulful beauty) Men in the contrary would love unconditionally for
the same soulful beauty independent of whether that beauty beautifies their
world.
Unconditional
love is seamlessly entwined with “the one” chimera in our media and culture.
Most men walk aimlessly through life searching for “the one.” They can’t find
her and perceive themselves as failures.
Women
are not naturally concerned with ''the one'', (the media-conferred concept of
Prince Charming). Women are concerned with anyone who makes them feel good.
There’s
one profoundly simple truth that men need to know: Women leave men they love.
They
feel terrible about it. It tears their heart out of them. But they do it. They
rally their courage and their resources and they leave. Women leave men with
whom they have children, homes, and lives.
And
I'm writing this from what I have observed around.
Women
leave for many reasons. Reasons I will talk about in some other post.
Man
desires a sacrificial love, sacrifice implies loyalty and connection. What men
want from love, and what woman’s love amounts to is fundamentally
irreconcilable.
In
matters of love (and not simply lust,) man is an optimistic egalitarian. He
loves as he wishes to be loved. In matters of love, when a man is young and
oblivious to the ways of women, he is a true adherent of the golden rule.
The
folly of man’s nature lies in the belief that the loyalty quintessential to
woman’s maternal instinct will be available within a romantic context.
As
such, man has an idealization of woman’s love, not a realization.
Man
desires that which is unattainable to him, unaware the love he desires is
maternal in nature, unable to be felt for him. Nature plays a cruel trick on
the psychology of man. It gives him a very pure, high-quality love in his
childhood. It gives him a template for woman’s love that he comes to expect as
a standard of all women.
He
is taught by his mother’s love that unconditional loyalty, noble character,
gentleness, sacrifice, and trust are intrinsic of the feminine essence. And so
as he grows from a boy into a man he comes to the rather logical conclusion
that if he is “a good man,” he can expect to be loved by his lover in much the
same way.
His
mother, well-meant but quite incorrectly likewise affirms this notion to him.
This is a wicked lie, but a man whose heart is yet to be broken does not
realize this. He thinks woman’s love is immutable. He knows not that her love
for a child is different from that of her love for him.
Woman’s
Love Defined: The epitome of a woman’s love is infatuation. To define it, this
is a lust for your power and an obsession with how your character makes her
feel, secondary to your power. It is put crudely: opportunism and emotional
self-appeasement alchemized with lust.
Man
often makes the mistake of thinking that because he can love a woman without
lusting after her, that a woman can do the same.
She
cannot because her love is not based on sacrifice, it is based on the
appreciation of man’s sacrifice met with lust.
The
more man sacrifices for a woman, the more likely he is to fall in love with his
investment. The more a woman sacrifices for man absent of animal lust, the more
repulsion she feels for him.
“When
a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first husband. When a man
marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck;
men risk theirs.” – Oscar Wilde