There is this girl in one of my classes who always stares at me when I'm talking to my friends, I don't look back at her but I can see her in my peripheral vision. I try my best to be nice with her, always ask if we have homework, and I sometimes say goodbye to her at the end of the day. Here's the thing though, she never wants to initiate conversation with me ever, she never says bye to me (after all the times I did), and she really just completely ignores me. Is she just shy to talk to me or what? I know this girl likes me so why would she ignore me when I'm showing her interest.
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Hi, If this question of your is related to your other question:
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Then there you go;
After all this time, Perhaps she lost interest. Pretend as if you did too for while. This will bring her back since she must have guessed you look up to her. Your sudden loss of interest may interest her and bang..!!!
Whenever you go talk to her after this one day/ two day hiatus (which will attempt to give her space if she wants/needs and intrigue her as to why you stopped chasing her..) ,without wanting to seem to bombarding ask questions that demand some open-ended type of answer (well if you really want her to stick around you-Smile and make eye contact.) instead of asking yes/no leading to nowhere type of questions. Her actually responding would show that the flame has not yet doused.
The staring part is Big! :)
I answered a qs on that you may wish to check it out
[http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
i'll just copy paste the essential:
"The act of staring implies a visual focus, where the subject of the gaze is objectified. The notion of staring also implicates the looker in constructing themselves as a subject. They might be wanting to make themselves notice."
"If staring happens continuously, they want to check on your activities , knowing you better but from far.."
"Staring someone, normally pressurises the one being stared to look back. It might just be another way to win your attention. Especially when you do stare back and they continue staring or smile lightly with their eyes! Some keep staring back at you without looking away but stay reactionless. That's just because they are afraid to do something wrong and be rejected by you."
In your case, if ever she looks away it may just either account for her shyness or unwillingness to commit.
Other options are:
1) She is playing hard to get.
2) She might just be trying to figure out things about you or how to make a first step.
3) "She wants to see if you really care enough to wait for her. Just wait, and i'm pretty sure you'll get the type of talk you want. I know what you mean, girls play those games, it's just nature. If you like her, don't dump her, that'll totally end everything. Wait..."
4) "First, don't pester her - she might actually be busy.
If she knows you are interested, then express your opinion firmly but not rudely."
5) Perhaps she is avoiding you after the lap thing because she was embarrassed and didn't want you thinking she was weird.
6) She knows that you like her AND girls normally start to ignore the boys whom they know like them. I think this girl is ignoring you like you say to test you to see what you do. Sometimes girls will back away and not show any affection etc to see how you react.
7) "I would get help from her best friend to find out if she likes you or maybe ask your best friend to bring you two closer maybe ask him to gently push you when she is beside you so that you bump into he and when you do,Just say sorry and say that maybe we should talk and that I want a private conversation.Or ask a friend to deliberately matchmake you two to bring you two closer."
8) She might think that you were a bit upset with her earlier and it bugs her.
Solution: If you ever had some really good time spent with her one that made you laugh a lot or a topic you talked a lot about- bring it up again.. it can do magic.
I would have related better had you given your ages and a little bit about your aura and her personality. what is this class you have together?
Hope that helps you and let me know what you decide to do / or what happens. ;)
[http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
Then there you go;
After all this time, Perhaps she lost interest. Pretend as if you did too for while. This will bring her back since she must have guessed you look up to her. Your sudden loss of interest may interest her and bang..!!!
Whenever you go talk to her after this one day/ two day hiatus (which will attempt to give her space if she wants/needs and intrigue her as to why you stopped chasing her..) ,without wanting to seem to bombarding ask questions that demand some open-ended type of answer (well if you really want her to stick around you-Smile and make eye contact.) instead of asking yes/no leading to nowhere type of questions. Her actually responding would show that the flame has not yet doused.
The staring part is Big! :)
I answered a qs on that you may wish to check it out
[http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
i'll just copy paste the essential:
"The act of staring implies a visual focus, where the subject of the gaze is objectified. The notion of staring also implicates the looker in constructing themselves as a subject. They might be wanting to make themselves notice."
"If staring happens continuously, they want to check on your activities , knowing you better but from far.."
"Staring someone, normally pressurises the one being stared to look back. It might just be another way to win your attention. Especially when you do stare back and they continue staring or smile lightly with their eyes! Some keep staring back at you without looking away but stay reactionless. That's just because they are afraid to do something wrong and be rejected by you."
In your case, if ever she looks away it may just either account for her shyness or unwillingness to commit.
Other options are:
1) She is playing hard to get.
2) She might just be trying to figure out things about you or how to make a first step.
3) "She wants to see if you really care enough to wait for her. Just wait, and i'm pretty sure you'll get the type of talk you want. I know what you mean, girls play those games, it's just nature. If you like her, don't dump her, that'll totally end everything. Wait..."
4) "First, don't pester her - she might actually be busy.
If she knows you are interested, then express your opinion firmly but not rudely."
5) Perhaps she is avoiding you after the lap thing because she was embarrassed and didn't want you thinking she was weird.
6) She knows that you like her AND girls normally start to ignore the boys whom they know like them. I think this girl is ignoring you like you say to test you to see what you do. Sometimes girls will back away and not show any affection etc to see how you react.
7) "I would get help from her best friend to find out if she likes you or maybe ask your best friend to bring you two closer maybe ask him to gently push you when she is beside you so that you bump into he and when you do,Just say sorry and say that maybe we should talk and that I want a private conversation.Or ask a friend to deliberately matchmake you two to bring you two closer."
8) She might think that you were a bit upset with her earlier and it bugs her.
Solution: If you ever had some really good time spent with her one that made you laugh a lot or a topic you talked a lot about- bring it up again.. it can do magic.
I would have related better had you given your ages and a little bit about your aura and her personality. what is this class you have together?
Hope that helps you and let me know what you decide to do / or what happens. ;)
Source:
Went on Google, chatted with friends about it and quoted some past Yahoo Answers. Hope it paid off.
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- Very helpful ty.