1. Expectation: "He can give me guy advice!"
Reality: Most of the time when you ask your guy BFF for guy advice, he will shrug and continue eating his slice of Pizza dirtying his mouth and probably T-shirt in the process. Guys don't have any more knowledge about how some dude he's never met operates any more than we do. Actually he will never be able to tell with even 65% certainty if he thinks another guy's behaviour means he probably like you from merely watching his behaviour unless your make best friend is probably crushing on you!
2. Expectations: ''I'll be one of the guys!"
Reality: I wish this were a thing, but truthfully you will probably just be his GIRL friend. Because honestly, let's admit it, your male best friend is no more yours to claim once he meets up woth his GUYS friends! Guys often have a really hard time differentiating "cool girl" from "girl I wanna sleep with."
And just because you're his BFF doesn't mean you'll be seen as a sexless bro.
Now, unless one of his guy friends interested in you or if they all enjoy your company generally, then you might perhaps integrate the group- BUT do not hope being called 'BRO!'
3. Expectation: "I'll always have a date!"
Reality: Only if he's single and doesn't have anything boyish to attend to, like his football match- he probably has a life and/or is super lazy.
Having a male best friend neither means that you' ll always have an arm candy. Males keep the arm candy for after marriage!
4. Expectation: "I'll understand men more in general!"
Reality: If anything, it's possible you'll actually become more confused, because the more time you spend with him, the more you'll realize that even if he is a guy, he's also a person and people are complex and no one makes sense 100 percent of the time. Plus, even if you do figure him out, the guys you're going for probably won't react the same way the same way he does every single time, so you're back to square one.
5. Expectation: "Being BFF with a guy will be zero drama!"
Reality: The myth that "being friends with girls always leads to drama" is lame. Guys get moody and weird and jealous and competitive and selfish just as much as women do. They have their fair share of drama making but it,s just that they are better at hiding it and not making a fuss about it. In some cases, they'll just take all the blame on themselves or stop caring to clarify themselves or to make you see reason because they know it'll lead to no where.
6. Expectation: "Maybe we'll fall in love some day!"
Reality: Have I had this hope with certain guy BFFs in the past? For sure. Back since primary school i used to make those perfect scenarios of them in my mind. But let me tell you, that stuff happens on its own. And even if you do end up together five years down the road, it's not happening now because he talks like a child and comes from some ape planet, so why not live in the present? The present wherein he is undateable, but also your bestest best friend ever.
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