It's that stuff that holds your breath. It's that stuff that's holding you to the Earth and it is that stuff that liberates you. Love is what drives the engines of this universe. Love makes life live.
Most people think the opposite of love is hate, but I suggest that the opposite of love is fear. While fear stops us, separates us from our true selves and from others, love opens up all possibility.
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The opposite of love isn't hate, it's fear. Hatred is a by-product of fear; fear of the unknown or the different. But once you realize that the unknown and the different do not threaten your essence or divinity, nor do they define you, then the hatred and fear are gone, and only love remains.
Me
The opposite of love is fear. Not hatred. Hatred has no opposite. If you
do not love, you fear.
NIk
That changes the
whole meaning.
Me
Stupid love, ridiculous live, dumb love and assy love. Yet love.
NIk
Romantic love. Ohh yeah.
Me
Yes, every spiritual guru tells you. In the moment where you are afraid,
you are loveless.
In any situation,
ask yourself, what would love do and what would fear do? Contrast and see for
yourself!
It will reveal
things that'll startle.
NIk
Fearing is sometimes good. It shows strength
Me
Lol Romantic Love, Sexual love, Paternal love, sibling love.
Really?
Enlighten me.
NIk
It's like before you're going in a battle. If you're fearless, you're
doomed to lose.
Me
I can't see sense in that. Fear will make you tremble at some point.
Here, I think you
are confusing fearlessness with overconfidence. Fearless-ness is love. The love
to simply play no matter what the results are. To love is a choice. And to fear
is one as well. The one you choose defines who you are.
NIk
Having no fear is
overconfidence. One should have a
little of fear in their hearts before going into a battle.
That's the thing
that will make then reason.
You cannot go in
fearless.. Did it once, output wasn't good at all.
Me
Having no fear is not equal to overconfidence.
It's not fear that
will make them reason, it is the respect for the capacity of the opponent that
will make them stay humble and rooted. Not fear. The one who feared never
loved. Yet the one who respected, loved a hundred kinds of love.
NIk
NOPE.
Me
It's about understanding that no one's greater than the other, it's
about mutual respect.
NIk
You should fear. Not trembling in
fear. But having a little of fear in that heart will be good in the future. Only this will make
you think faster to take hasty decisions.
Me
No, no. So you have been trained to use fear to make your body react to
adrenaline rushes.. Hmmphh. Don't worry it can be undone.
You can use Love to
catalyse the same decision making process.
Fear.
Irrationality.
NIk
You cannot always be fearless. That's why.
Me
It's just that nobody taught us how to us love to do that.
NIk
You should know how to make that fear your strength.
Me
The fear of what? Of whom?
I make of love my
strength.
Making of fear your
strength will crumble one day when your fear goes out of control.
NIk
You never got scared in your life?? Sudden instant
fear? Demolishing one? Once you know how
to control it, it won't destroy you.
Me
Hello Mister! There's a difference between fear, scared and afraid.
NIk
IT'S THE SAME THING.
Me
No! It's not.
NIk
You're fearing something you're scared of something you're afraid of
something
Go on, show the
differences?
Me
You do agree that there is a difference between love, like, adore,
right?
NIk
I guess so. It's just the same
thing.
But on different
levels.
1st level: like.
2nd: adore.
3rd : love.
Me
You 'guess' so? Lol
Then, how about
doing the same to fear, afraid, scare.
These three have
different notions.
NIk
Explain yourself
Me
Notions that pertain to the difference in emphasis of the object and the
subject.
Try playing with
them.
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NIk
how to play with those?
Me
Okay. Fine. Let's keep aside their meanings.
Me
Here, fear is about need. The fear that you think is fear, is not fear.
It is
The fear I'm talking about is Fear and the one you are talking about is
fear somehow what you call being scared or afraid.
Now define me your
fear. I'll tell you what my version of Fear is.
NIk
What's the difference??
Something you
fear??
idk pffftt
uhmm
Me
Cm'on, the
dictionary says what on fear?
NIk
Well think about this you're in the viking age, you're about to go into
battle, you're fearing the enemy
That good?
Me
Fear is the thought that you are not going to be able to have the things
you think you need.
The Vikings are
fearing the enemy or are being afraid to lose?
NIk
Not afraid to lose. Just having a
little fear in their for their soldiers.
Me
So there's fear, there's a need? And thus need is going to make you win?
NIk
Yess.
Me
You'll understand the thing about fear when you understand love. Authentic Love.
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Part of being human is experiencing all feelings, including fear. Feel your fear and look within to understand its source. Then move through it by embracing the authentic love that is always within you.
"You understand it very well. Fear is a response to the absence of love, and is healed by bringing love present with it, by acceptance of it. The opposite of love is hate, not fear. Love is the heart of acceptance, and hate is the heart of denial. It is hate and denial that cause pain, and it is love and acceptance that heal.
"Love is the feeling one has when opening to another, as the Mother opened to me in the beginning. Opening to create space for someone or something is the act of acceptance, the act of love. Acceptance includes and heals.
"Denial and hatred, on the other hand, take away space, close it off to someone or something, creating a gap between the denier and the denied. Denial excludes and hurts. And whether they admit it or deny it, everyone fears the pain of being hated and denied.