Once, on Yahoo Answers, a girl posted:
I don't like my friends! They are so serious and moody all the time and whenever they are upset about something they take it out on me . I can't take it anymore . They take even the slightest of comments seriously . Like for example, I called my really skinny friend fat for fun but she got mad for three days! The other one told me something really stupid about something and when I laughed she got mad . I really can't take their mood swings anymore ! I mean I'm a girl of their age too! and I'm a naturally happy and jolly person and they dampen my spirits. I mean they can be really nice to but they are too moody . Am I a bad person?For hating them sometimes ? What do I do?
To that I have the following to say:
It's time to take some fresh air!.. You are not wrong for hating them at times, not at all! Neither does it make you a bad person!
(Nothing is intrinsically right or wrong. It is people who make you associate those judgments. Right= WHAT WORKS FOR PEOPLE, Wrong=WHAT DOES NOT WORK FOR PEOPLE!...)
A friend is basically defined as someone you like. but if they behave in such a way that makes you feel dislike towards them then perhaps its time to question your relationship... or perhaps not, it really depends on how much hurt it is causing to you. If being with them makes you sad, doesn't allow you to express yourself, doesn't allow you to evolve as a person.. then what is the point of having friends like those..
I personally see friends as people who you admire and whose traits you respect and somehow you wish you were a bit like them. You should technically be able to feel their aura. And another personal definition i have of a friend is that the latter should never expect things from you as well as you yourself. And then you have to be basically compatible. they way you communicate should not come off as an insult/vulgar to the other person...
I was 14 years old when something quite similar occurred to me... it hurt a lot not to bee able to breathe... i slowly started to distance myself from them. i was literally disillusioned about friends, relationships, and people in general. i had lost faith to open up to anybody. i could not even claim to have been my own friend. i stopped talking to people because my "friends" had this amazing gut to make me feel so wrong about myself..
Surely i felt so depressed and sad to have metamorphosed from the enthusiastic, fun-loving and lively person i was to the quiet and barely opening up nerd type of person.
Today i'm nearing 17.. and my condition has kinda healed i do have some people to whom i can relate.
Believe i had to wake up! I could not let people who i would never ever see perhaps in my whole life after high school to control my life..
If you think you really love them and share a really strong bond,.. tell them your feelings.. if they really are your friends, they will try to make you feel more integrated.. else then it's really time to move on.. There will always be people who would want to befriend people like us! :)
Source:
My life :)