Sex

‘disgusting’, ‘icky’, ‘repugnant’, ‘foul’, ‘nauseating’ ‘painful’, ‘dogs on heat’

 These are a few of the words that come to my mind if I think about sex.  Sixteen and not pregnant, I don’t know if I’m just an immature girl or if there is something wrong with me but with all the fluids, sweat, odours, saliva, balls and bananas, I just find the whole concept of sex really gross, so gross that I felt scared to click on the play button when a friend sent me the trailer of Fifty Shades of Grey.  Fortunately, when I googled my feelings about sex on the net, it turned out that I am not the only one who thinks so. Many teens of my age actually have the same reaction.  

Why do many think that sex is disgusting when we should be thankful to this whole divine process that has put us on Earth? According to me, this is because we too often learn about sex from the wrong sources. To be frank, when the biology book did not satisfy my hunger for knowledge, I turned to the net, to Google which no need to say, eventually led me to pornographic sites. One click and I was mentally no more a virgin. So many categories there were. Anal sex. Oral sex. She-male. Orgy. 

SERIOUSLY?  

I am lucky enough to know that this is actually dirty sex. With a lack of sex education in our country, many adolescents use porn sites as their primary source of information on what sex is supposed to be like.  But what if other teenagers think that whatever porn sites portray is the truth about sex, is the way adults have it?

Worse, pornography portrays sexual violence against women as normal, natural and an inevitable part of male sexuality.  And there is nothing more disgusting than that.

Dear readers, pornography and sex are not the same thing. The joint author of this article argues that sex is a beautiful thing. 

-I find it personally disturbing that in most cultures, the sexual parts of human bodies may not even be referred to by name. In short, the human culture agrees that the actual names of certain body parts are shameful and embarrassing and are to be avoided! Humans also believe that intensely graphic depictions of sexual activity in photographs, drawings, comic books, video games, television and motion pictures are distasteful, repugnant, disgusting and unacceptable.

Still what made be try to consider the opposite was when I was introduced by Indian Travel agent magazines to Ancient temples! The sculptures these temples depict sex postures, show types of sexual intercourses that are condemned in modern society. I have taken out some time to read about the Kamasutra ever since I turned 16. And God, was I startled! I mean it described sex in ways that I had never imagined! It is said that Nandi, favourite devotee of Lord Shiva wrote a scripture based on the conversation the Lord had with his consort, Parvati, while explaining to her the science and art of sex. But for me, it was truly when Conversations with God landed on my lap that I finally started to decipher the whole sex business!

There's a beautiful simplicity of internal alchemy that is ignited, producing a feeling of sexual pleasure, drawing this feeling from the sexual organs. Energy flows and then follows the feelings that are already so intense.

  

Sex is more than just a physical act. There is also a deep spiritual aspect to sex.

Whenever two bodies engage in sex, their souls are also united.

Sex is occurring right now among many people all over the world. ( this I know may shock many. It did startle a friend. Well, to him, this is where things start.) 

Sexual energy is the primal and creative energy of the universe. All things that are alive come from sexual energy. In animals and other life forms, sexual energy expresses itself as biological creativity. In humans, sexual energy can be creative at all levels -- physical, emotional and spiritual. In any situation -- where we feel attraction, arousal, awakening, alertness, passion, interest, inspiration, excitement, creativity, enthusiasm --where we feel our auras merging and we think that we are able to influence each other through attraction- it is truly a synergistic energy exchange, or if you wish Synergistic Energy eXchange: SEX!

   Sexual desire is sacred and chaste. The suppression of sexual energy is false, ugly and unchaste.

Who would wish the opposite of love,  awakening, alertness, passion, interest, inspiration, excitement, creativity, enthusiasm?! 

  

   During sexual union, there is union between flesh and spirit. Bliss, carefreeness and playfulness are the essence of sex. So when I had this very endearing conversation with my co-author this morning and I discovered her distaste pertaining to the subject- I must say, I was taken aback. But then it dawned on me that she was not aware of this grander version that spiritual beings know of Sex. Like most of us, she knew that type of sex that society condemned, repressed and shamed!

I was watching a movie today- Mom at sixteen. There was a strong message in it which was about how we are selling sex amongst teenagers. It has been banalised. It has been rendered a commercial product meant for 'adults' or weirdly, 'adult entertainment'. And the more sophisticated forms of it- almost illicit and condemned. 

But little do we realise that Sex is about us. It's a personal bond. It is a great responsibility towards ourselves. Responsility not in the sense of conceiving babies only! Responsility towards our soul. For one to be able to claim- "I have a sexual identity! I know about my body. I know what goes on inside and where! The responsibility that you have towards you soul to fulfill your agenda to reach the next Grander Vision that you have of yourself! That of being able to know the sexual god in you!

With the help or not to explore your own body with another!

  

Sex is meant to be played with. Play with sex, Play with it. It's wonderful fun.

But for goodness sake, don't destroy the sexual innocence and pleasure and purity of the fun, the joy, by misusing sex. Don't use it for power, or hidden purpose; for ego gratification or domination; for any purpose other than the purest joy and the highest ecstasy, given and shared - which is love, and love recreated - which is new life! 

“You want to experience yourself as a person who has sex without love? Go ahead! You'll do that until you don't want it anymore. And the only thing that will - that could ever - cause you to stop this, or any, behavior, is your newly emerging thought about Who You Are.” – Walsch

“Why did you make sex so good, so spectacular, so powerful a human experience if all we are to do is stay away from it as much as we can?” – N.D. Walsch

  

Our attitudes about sex form a microcosm of our attitudes about life. Life should be a joy, a celebration, and it has become an experience of fear, anxiety, "not enough-ness," envy, rage, and tragedy. The same can be said about sex.

We have repressed sex, even as we have repressed life, rather than fully Self-expressing with abandon and joy.

We have shamed sex, even as we have shamed life, calling it evil and wicked, rather than the highest gift and the greatest pleasure. 

The moral codes, religious constrictions, social taboos and emotional conventions WE have placed around sex (and by the way, around love - and all of life) have made it virtually impossible for you to celebrate your being.

Sex is an extraordinary expression of love - love of another, love of Self, love of life. You ought to therefore love it!

One engages in sex because it is the natural thing to do. It is built into the genes, you obey a biological imperative. It is a genetic signal that drives to the question of species survival. But once the survival of the species is assured- the biological imperative is not to guarantee the survival of the species, but to experience the Oneness which is the true nature of your being

If procreation were the only reason for sexual expression - if it were nothing more than a "delivery system" - you would no longer need to engage in it with one another. Sex goes beyond procreation!

The biological imperative is not to create more life, but to experience more life - and to experience that life as it really is: a manifestation of Oneness. 

If you are having sex from only your lower chakra center (sex organ) , you are operating from the root chakra alone, and missing by far the most glorious part of the experience.  Women normally have an advantage at that, for they are quicker to join sex with love- the upper chakra!